Rachel Earing

I hope you enjoy listenng to my interview with Rachel [25:40 duration]. There is more information about Rachel at the bottom of this page including her contact details.

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Tania.

Transcript of interview :

Tania: 

My guest today is Rachel Earing. So, welcome Rachel.

Rachel: 

Hi Tania. Lovely to be with you.

Tania: 

Yeah, I think people who are listening in on this call will not realize that we’ve just been through an absolute fit of giggles here for no apparent reason actually.

Rachel: 

I’m just containing myself.

Tania: 

Yeah, we know that there’s far worse things in life than the fit of the giggles.

Rachel: 

Oh, absolutely. It’s known as the power of God, I think.

Tania: 

Yeah, it was quite refreshed after that.

Rachel: 

Good.

Tania: 

Now, Rachel is a mental health energy specialist. I hope I got that right but I probably feel I didn’t quite hit the words right. Mental health energy therapists? Look, professional now.

Rachel: 

We are.

Tania: 

All right then. With that being said, Rachel. Rachel is actually a very accomplished therapist who’s worked with many, many people over time. She’s even developed her own approaches. Rachel is also a mindfulness based in a repatterning therapist. Why I’ve invited her on the call today is so that she can discuss some of the work that she’s done with mindfulness based in a repatterning. So welcome again Rachel.

Rachel: 

It’s so lovely to be with you Tania. It really is. I think we’ve had a lovely time before the call. And now it’s even more beautiful to be on with you so thank you.

Tania: 

Thank you. I do think in life it’s important to be able to have a bit of laugh and have a bit of humour about the little things, isn’t it really?

Rachel: 

Oh, it is. I must say that’s exactly how my whole therapy approach goes anyway. There’s an awful lot of laughter in the therapies that I do. I have a lot of joy, and a lot of love. So it seemed quite fitting that we should have a fit of the giggles really before we start.

Tania: 

Yeah, it’s one of those things in life isn’t it? But you know, why cut short a happy moment with that? But thank you Rachel again. Maybe you’ve used energy patterning mindfulness space in repatterning. Maybe you could tell us about some of the benefits you found using that approach.

Rachel: 

It’s extremely gentle and extremely forgiving for people in the extent of they don’t have to unburden and go back and disclose great personal details because it works on that real essence of colour, and just presence, and real connection from within yourself. That is so powerful that when somebody who is really quite deeply distressed can tune into that so easily. It calms the whole system down very, very quickly, but it releases in the most beautiful way. So, it helps people feel safe. I think that’s the main thing in any therapy that we do that somebody who comes to you feel safe. Safe enough to when they are ready, they can start to disclose. And if they don’t need to, then they also don’t need to. It’s their choice at the end of the day.

Tania: 

Yeah, you make a really, really important point here because in mindfulness based in repatterning, one of the first things we do is establish what we call a safe place, a safe zone. We take them out of that fight or flight response. I think that’s very key, don’t you? In your experience, do you find that very important?

Rachel: 

Absolutely because the people that tend to come to me usually have suffered quite a lot of trauma and has traumatic backgrounds. So, for them to have to come and disclose any of that feels traumatic just turning up to be online or face to face is such a big thing for them to actually get to being with a therapist that that is enough for them, especially in one session. So, it’s really important that we’re able to put them in that safe place and know that when… I mean give them the skill as well actually, for when they leave you to know that it’s something they can put themselves back into that safe space, so that when these things do reoccur, they can do this in a really gentle, beautiful way that’s not putting them directly into the event, but it’s actually helping them replace it with something else that’s more loving and beautiful and kind.

Tania: 

Yeah, no. You put that very, very beautifully because some people, it takes a lot of bravery to go and see a therapist, especially if you have a lot of trauma in your life. You watch any TV show, you will always see that person go see the therapist, and then they start to say things. They will say things that have happened. Those are highly traumatic.

Rachel: 

It really is for people. And I think that that’s the main thing that stops people from going to see anybody – the thought of actually having to go back there or being put back into that situation and feeling any of those emotions, those feelings coming back up to the surface. They are usually so powerful and so intense that to go back to the negative ones that the permeate all that through the whole of the system, it’s an experience. It’s not even something that they can verbally disclose because it’s very hard to verbalize those physical sensations that are going on and make sense of it because it was a lot of trauma. There is no sense. It’s a sensory experience.

There are things that you see, and hear, and feel, and touch. When that’s all happening in such a short space of time, your energy system sort of closes down to protect you against all of that. It freezes in your system or you want to run away from it, whichever one that is. But once that freezes in your system, pretty much like a vaccine, your whole body learns, and your system learns to protect you from those going there again. So, it will try anything to protect your energy system. And this is a really gentle approach of sort of creeping in around the edges and getting the depth of it and expanding it in a beautiful way so that it’s really just pushing it out from your system and leaving you with a real inner peace.

Tania: 

Yeah, bringing you into inner peace into coherence and stillness within. I mean, people think that they need to understand what’s happened to themselves and they need to talk it through, but you don’t actually need those two things to happen, do you really, in order to clear it?

Rachel: 

I think sometimes you do. I think sometimes with any therapist that you’re working with that that generally happens as you were working through that process with the therapist, because we are there to sort of help that process of understanding so it does make sense. Otherwise, there’s another sort of worry that can start all over again, isn’t there? But it does take away very much the edges of when you really don’t want to go there. You don’t really want to go back into it, but you do need to touch on the fact that it happened.

You do need to acknowledge that it happened and make some peace with that because it doesn’t go away. It just sits in your system, creating either a physical or mental problem that grows and grows and grows until it is dealt with. So, it is in a way easier to deal with something as soon as possible when it’s happening because otherwise when it manifests at a later date, it’s very hard for somebody who isn’t a therapist and locate that back to the initial problem.

Tania: 

Yeah. Thank you for that as well. What I’d say is, in my experience, people often get the realization and understanding as they working on it. They don’t actually need me to realize it prior to. As I begin to work on it, often grateful understanding comes. I think that’s the better way for it to unfold, rather than to try and understand your issue before looking to begin to clear it.

I’ve certainly come across, like you said, just there that there comes an understanding as you begin to work on it and it is keeping that safe places. All that begins to happen. And the shift of how you think about things as well, isn’t it? It’s about accepting what’s happened because we can’t change history. We cannot change the fact that things have happened to us. We don’t really need to either. It’s about coming to a place of peace, as you mentioned then with what you said.

Rachel: 

I think that’s the really important thing because we strive so hard to constantly move on and move through and do better and create more and be that better person that we know, we just know inside us that we’re meant to be something more than we usually are when we’re stuck in that rut, but we just don’t know how to break free from those old patterns, whether that be because of what we’re eating, because of the things that we’re saying, because of the relationships that we’re in, because of the work issues that keep repeating those patterns. And we’re not stupid. None of us are stupid.

We know what we should be doing but because our energy system protects us, there is usually 99.9% of the time, an emotional issue that that needs to be acknowledged, that needs to be accepted that the past did happen with that particular emotion attached to it. And the sooner we can just sort of do that in a quieter detached way, and say that happened, I accept that happened even though I didn’t like it, even though it was painful, even though I didn’t want it to, it happened. That acceptance in itself, with the process of MBIR is so powerful. It releases and your whole system then starts to soften to go with that. Yeah, that release is extremely powerful.

Tania: 

The process I see is just putting this into a natural reboot, and just supporting the body’s own natural healing mechanisms because the body knows what’s right for itself. I think it’s just a technique that works in alignment. Do you have any cases that you’ve done that you have permission to share here, Rachel?

Rachel: 

Yes. There is such on YouTube video as well that I’ve done with the person sp that people can refer to if they want to. There was a couple that came to see me. He was very much caught up in the system of being in hospital in intensive care, which is very… especially with COVID and how it’s been, and the fear of people like being in that environment, and the fear of dying.

Tania: 

Oh, yes.

Rachel: 

We used a lot of the MBIR principles to go through that whole process. It really shifted things enormously for him because the biggest things that was most difficult because he very nearly didn’t make it. It was that bright light that was in intensive care, that bright light that was in the carpark because they turned up. There’s a lot of connections with this bright light. And that as you sort of were able to work through that and change, change the colours and work through all of that with him in a very sensory way, it changed. Think of the magnetic poles and you’ve literally got that negative pole of emotion. It just lifted and shifted completely into the opposite extreme of whatever that negative emotion was. It went to the positive. You could just see that happening as he was working through it, and how emotional in the most beautiful way he was when that happened. And the realizations as it was all happening as he was working out in his system.

It really is the most beautiful, powerful, empowering. I think that’s the key. It’s a really empowering therapy because I’m not doing that for him, or her. That’s happening within them. Whatever thoughts on colours and shapes and people and events that come to their mind, that’s happening as they’re putting their own pieces of their life story and their jigsaw together. That’s really how it works as far as I’m concerned. It’s not as imposing anything. It’s the client putting their whole life story together in these little jigsaw puzzles, as it shifts from the negative into peace and joy and unconditional love. So yeah, very, very powerful.

Tania: 

Yeah, I got the feeling with that emotions. Was it some very beautiful emotions that came up for him?

Rachel: 

Oh, yeah. And quite funny as well really because sometimes the images and the things that you see when you’re in this really beautiful relaxed state, don’t make complete sense to you at the time. But then as we talk things through afterwards as to what that actually might mean, and I asked certain questions, there was a real rebirthing literally, of somebody being in that bed to then what that might actually represent as the new them. That new person that then they came out of. It was like a total rebirthing process that literally came out as a fried egg, which just wouldn’t make sense until you actually think about your level on egg. It’s a birth, isn’t it? It is a birth of something, a rebirthing, a recreation of something else.

Tania: 

Symbiology. I have to check out the word right but it’s a symbolism.

Rachel: 

That’s right. It was so powerful for him and powerful for me as well because I think each client that you work with, they bring something back to you that you learn from, which is so beautiful. From a therapist’s point of view, it is the most beautiful way to work. You never feel drained. You never feel exhausted or being too much. You actually feel energized because that sharing good energy between you and the empowerment of somebody giving that empowerment to somebody else. Naturally, it lifts you and you’re learning as well so it’s really powerful.

Tania: 

I would say, yeah, one of the beautiful things. I mean, I’m just getting this real true sense of that moment when he was having these shifts with you. I’ve experienced that so many times myself. A beautiful… It was kind of overwhelming. I find it quite a bit overwhelming, fantastic feeling.

Rachel: 

It’s very emotional. It’s very emotional for that person because they’ve gone from literally complete and utter terror of death, of everything that connects it to them, and their life experience to becoming something else completely. And that process is just priceless. And it becomes whatever it becomes for that individual and their beliefs and their lifestyle and whatever it is. But it means the world to that person.

Tania: 

How did it help him in that specific situation he was in then? What was the benefit? What did it do for him?

Rachel: 

Oh, complete. I mean, you know, it completely changed his life. He did come to me and say he wanted to get back to normal. I said, “You will never go back to your normal was. It will have changed.” So, I always make that very clear that people will never go back to being as they were because how they were and what they’ve gone through will have changed their perspective on it. But he is now obviously much calmer. He is able to go back to work and work because it was affecting work, it was affecting social life.

Tania: 

What was affecting?

Rachel: 

Anxiety, stress, panic attacks. A very sociable person that didn’t want to be sociable wasn’t able to connect fully because everything was too much. All of the sensation, all the noise, the sounds, the lights, the people, it was all too claustrophobic. It was claustrophobic. It was too much. And within weeks, with a couple of sessions, he was able to go back out on the dance floor at a wedding. He was sleeping better. He only sort of needed to actually put his hand on his own heart. It was literally like, you know, I put my hand up. So, yes. It’s really beautiful healing ways that gives that person that empowerment to use the tools themselves when they need to at home as well.

Tania: 

Yeah. The technique is so easy that people can easily be taught to use that, isn’t it really?

Rachel: 

Yes. Yeah. Once you’ve had a couple of sessions, they took it to themselves. And because they come in as a couple as well it was helping his wife understand his issues. It was also clearing out his wife’s trauma from his event, but also trauma from another family grief situation. And they were able as a couple to use it together at home and it’s brought them together as a couple closer. So, yeah, very very powerful.

Tania: 

Yeah, that’s an absolutely powerful story. So, what are the benefits that you found from this approach? There’s obviously you know, you were saying, you know, I picked up from there but the benefit of when you, as the therapist working with someone that you find a benefit for you personally.

Rachel: 

Yeah, because I don’t just do MBRI. I do NLP and hypnosis and Reiki and tapping, EFT. So, it allows you to bring that into a therapy session and use that, whether that be at the start of a session. I use MBRI depending on what the client is coming with so that they feel safe. And then, incorporate it into the other therapies as we go through depending on what the client needs. But I usually always end with MBRI because it’s a really beautiful place to sort of end the session on making sure that the client is feeling safe and at peace and leaving you calm and having that reassurance that they’re okay before they leave you no matter what has gone on. And because everybody’s got their own way, isn’t it? They’re ready to release each time. And some people are more open to it than others and they come to you. “I only take one session.” Others, you’ve got to be gentle and take it at their pace.

Tania: 

I think that’s so important. I mean that this will have been ingrained in you as well as me, isn’t it, with your background in all these techniques. It’s respecting the person, what’s right for them. And respecting that their system knows what’s right for them. That’s why very much so I like to use or develop techniques that is so respectful of their own deeper knowledge, that knowledge that lies within them and work in alignment with that. To me, that’s very important. And, again, the feeling is also very important to you, as well.

Rachel: 

Oh, deeply. Deeply because trauma, I think it’s also very important from any therapists point of view that you’ve also done the work on yourself, because if you understand what it means to go through a trauma of your own and then have worked through it using these techniques, you have a better understanding of what your client is going through, what they’re feeling, experiencing, and what it’s like at the other end. And that joy, and that bliss, and how beautiful it is. So, it allows you to leave them in that state for as long as they want to be in that state. And then, they’ll come back into the room one day reading rather than you be pushing that because some people will need that longer than others.

And it also gives you the flexibility that when you know somebody is highly traumatized that I might only use MBIR throughout the whole session with very little talking. They will not mention any detail at all about what has happened to them. It will just be what was that emotion. Where does it feel? And literally we’re working on complete sensory things to take them away from the event as much as possible. Let them release it and acknowledge that this all happened in the most beautiful way possible for them, rather than the most logical, difficult way that a therapist might understand, and explain to them why this is happening. And actually, as a therapist, I don’t need to know only they do.

Tania: 

That’s the truth of that, isn’t it? The moment you kick up your conscious, the analytical mind is almost like it can stop the releasing, stop letting go. It was like you kind of need to put that mind just to the side to get into the healthy place where your body can reboot itself with systems in a very beautiful way. But yes, so thank you very much for going through that with us, Rachel. I’m sure you could have told us so many other things.

Rachel: 

Well gosh, thanks.

Tania: 

So, if people wanted to find you or find out more about the work that you do, where would they go Rachel?

Rachel: 

You can find me on my website which is www.live4energy. That’s l-i-v-e, the number four, energy, dot co.uk. You could find me on Facebook. You can find me on Instagram. And you can find me on LinkedIn. I am more prevalent on Facebook, I think, than any of the others. Or you can just get in touch via email too.

Tania: 

All right. Well, I might even get very techie on you and stick the letters across the bottom of this video.

Rachel: 

Oh, I’m impressed.

Tania: 

Oh well, no, I’ve not been able to do that for a while.

Rachel: 

We seem to be [unclear 24:49] everything, isn’t it?

Tania: 

I’ll make it simpler. It is my absolute pleasure having this lovely chat. I just want to say I love your room and your decor there.

Rachel: 

Oh, thank you.

Tania: 

I think you give me plain wall envy.

Rachel: 

Oh, no. Honestly, if you saw the other side of the room where we have had a leak with the roof, and we’ll have to get some plaster off the wall, you wouldn’t be quite as envious right now, but we’re waiting to get that all sorted.

Tania:  

Do you need some therapy there, Rachel?

Rachel: 

No, I’m quite okay.

Tania: 

With that, I will say thank you very much for being my guest.

Rachel: 

My pleasure. Lovely as always. Thank you very much.

Tania: 

Thank you. Absolutely.